"Morality, Purity and Virginity"..An Afterthought by Jamil Shawwa

Where, we, humans, can start when talking about morality, maybe the Ten Commandments is a good place, also the same teachings that are found in Al-Quran and The Bible and other religions and beliefs and philosophies. But what if we do not want to use or cite the divine religions and others, where should we go and is it that important, I mean we already have established teachings as to what is considered moral or not and these principles more or less are found in every nation on earth and embodied in every political system imagined, regardless of course if these teachings are applied always or not. So where else would we go, the laws is a good place, the constitutions of the countries, again, even if they are there for decoration  and façade purposes or not. The big question I have after that long ambiguous introduction, to me at least, is why do we equate morality with virginity and why do we equate purity with it. I do not think they are related and if there is any relation, I do not think it should be mentioned because there is no direct connectivity or link or an unbroken process or experiences that can establish without any reasonable doubt that there is such connection. The obvious answer is virginity equals not touched but is a virgin better than a “tested person”, and if it is the case, who is qualified to decide. Maybe personal experience, probably, a good start, but most dangerously, we equate the three, morality, purity and virginity because we are raised to believe this way, we were raised, all humans, these are human trends and not related to any particular culture, that virginity is purity. It could be but why do we just pinpoint to that part in the human body, the reproduction area, and make it equal to either good or evil, why that human function is equated with virtues. I think one might say that I just answered myself, because it tied the area that keeps the human race going. What about other behaviors, or not, what if I meet a wonderful woman who has few experiences in life, same of course applies to the male, meaning a woman meeting a man who has few experiences in life, does it mean that these persons are not virtuous. Now, I am not going to involve the religions directly here although they are in the conscious and subconscious of most humans on earth. However, even the divine religions, they, and I am so scared to venture here, equate virginity with purity but they did not ignore other virtues. Therefore, the man or the woman, the girl or the boy, could be virgins until married, as religions require, but in the same time, they could be as far from purity and morality as the sun from the earth. I can meet a divorced woman for example or a single woman; this woman, same can be applied to a man, can have the strength of solid steel to resist anything that she considers immoral or not appealing. See, to her, if she loves someone, then she can practice what she feels a moral thing to do; she is not hurting anyone, she is not breaking a law, and she is not committing a crime- take into account that certain places in the world could criminalize what is considered in other places as personal freedom. I also could meet a topless woman in a topless beach or regular beach, it depends on the country and the laws, that woman could have more morality than a woman that is covered from head to toe. See, the bottom line here is that we can have many sets of morals and virtues and we can have all kinds of people, and we can have all kinds of behaviors, and accordingly it is not up to us, humans, to just set back and render that this person is virtuous or not, it is not up to us, unless we are in a position of judicious nature or law enforcement, in a democratic society, to decide on a case that is presented before us, we are not qualified, no one is. Even then, courts, depends on the society might not apply these human virtues to the case, it will or should apply the law, which is sometimes has nothing to do with the definition of virtues, there is a difference between legal and moral, they can be the same but also they might not be related. To conclude, the above are general statements and thoughts, if you represent a certain political or religious or social domination or party or agendas, then your views of morality, purity and virginity would for sure differes and usually, you would apply that scope to your views, some people nevertheless could be part of an agenda, but they still can have broader views of things. Those are the pragmatic, the practical and usually the leaders in their societies.